It’s time to email her again.  

Women get at least one new email per day in addition to several follow-up emails from men they are already talking to. Also, if she’s emailing men, most of them are responding, so tack on a couple of extra emails per week there.

The end result, she gets overwhelmed and forgets to email you back.

So, it’s on you to email a second time and “check in,” operating under the assumption that she was too busy to respond.

Here’s the deal, if she doesn’t like you, she’ll ignore your second email just like she ignored the first. If she does like you, she will definitely respond. No girl who is regularly logging in will ignore a second email from a guy she is interested in. However, an overwhelmed girl will ignore a first email. You have absolutely nothing to lose by emailing again.

Don’t believe me? Try it.

Teeth are one of those universally hot physical traits—unlike putting a plate in your lip or tattooing your forehead. But seriously, every girl has approached a dude at a bar only to have him smile and reveal that he was either in a brawl yesterday, is a professional skater without dental insurance, or on meth. Prove that you at least have a good dentist, even if you are a hot skater.

2. It makes you appear friendly.

Crazy how simple that is, smiling = friendliness. But it’s true. And mysteriously, when you appear friendly, people are more likely to want to be your friend,  and you definitely want female “friends.”

3. You look hotter when you smile.

I know you don’t think you do, but I promise, you do.

4. Women will think you are smiling at them.

When women see a picture of a guy, they imagine what it would be like if he were looking at them, and if you are frowning, they imagine what it would feel like to piss you off.

5. Smiling makes you look less like a creep.

And that’s a good thing. This should actually always be your #1 priority in crafting your online dating profile. Repeat after me, “I will not look like a creep…I will not look like a creep..” Good.

Stay tuned for a post on “How Not To Look Like a Serial Killer Even If You Are.”

Sign up for these sites first:

Match.com

Pros: Easy to use and there are millions of members.
Cons: Not free.

OKcupid.com

Pros: It’s free and the members are smart.
Cons: Not as many members as match.com. Definitely not as many active females users as Match.com.

Plentyoffish.com

Pros: Free.
Cons: It can feel a little bit like Craigslist personals at times.

Other sites to try

Chemistry.com

Pros: They use “science” to match you up with your anthropological match, or say they claim.
Cons: Expensive. I’m not sure their science is truly scienctific, or just a gimmick.

EHarmony

Pros: If you are looking for a relationship, and you want a site that does all of the work for you, this is the one.
Cons: This site is expensive and it takes forever to fill out their questionairre. It also takes forever to meet someone, yet, this is actually the point of the site—to make sure you actually want to meet the person.

If you had a nickel for every time someone wrote, “I am laid-back, I live life to the fullest and I’m passionate about the outdoors” in their profile, you’d be rich a rich person indeed.

These adjectives have been overused to the point that they now mean nothing and are just a waste of page space.

If you sound like every other dude, then why should a girl decide to go on a date with you when she can go on a date with a better-looking version of you? Honestly, she is thinking just that.

Here’s how it goes down, Dude A is laid-back, loves the outdoors, likes his job and has a great group of friends. Dude B is all of those things pluuuusss he has a fuller head of hair and is taller. Well, sorry guys, but why shouldn’t she email Dude B. Women are natural-born shoppers, Dude B is a better version but for the same price.

You need to be different to make her realize that you have qualities she can’t find in the 100s of other men dating online.

A preference is wanting to date someone who is 5’9—if the woman of your dreams shows up and she’s 5’4, you aren’t going to turn her away, you’d just prefer that she be taller. Now, if she also shows up with a human femur in her mouth, once again, deal-breaker.

Read this profile and tell me if you recognize it:

“I am a fun person who loves movies and music. I like walks on the beach, good conversation, and dining out. I’m looking for someone who is fun and can make me laugh.”

Unfortunately, the above describes most profiles – typical and non-informative. Beef up your profile to be more descriptive and unique. Instead of “I like movies,” say “my favorite movie is ____ because _______” or use a movie character to describe you. “I’m a lot like _____ in ______ because _______.”

Instead of “I like to discover new things,” say, “I’m a lot like Indiana Jones in that I love exploring the mysteries of life, while educating my mind to appreciate new things.”

When you write your online dating profile, imagine a friend is asking you the profile questions over a beer. But please, never write your profile drunk.

2. Be honest.

I know this sounds obvious, but it can’t be stressed enough–be honest–you might end up getting more dates if you aren’t, but they will be with people who want to date a version of you that doesn’t exist. And they also might get a little angry when they meet the 5’4 version of you after wearing 4-inch heels in anticipation of your 6’4 online mythical self.

3. Avoid writing a laundry list of adjectives.

Instead, take each adjective and tell a story that illustrates that trait without having to mention it. Instead of saying you are funny, make someone laugh by telling a joke or telling a story where you show off your self-deprecating humor. Adjectives are easy to come up with–supporting them with evidence, however, isn’t.

4. Write in your own voice.

A profile that stands out is one where the reader feels like the writer is speaking in their own voice–so don’t plagiarize shakespeare or try to use words you haven’t seen since taking the SAT.

5. Be as specific as possible.

Everyone has a story to tell, tell yours specifically and succinctly.  The key is to be as specific as possible–take a detailed example and get even more detailed. Specific details increase the chances of a potential date connecting with something you’ve said.

Have you ever met someone who doesn’t like these things? That’s like hating back massages (maybe a rancid essential oil experience?).

OK, here’s a way to change this sentence into something specific to you: I love cult films, electronic music, and sarcasm. Cult films are called cult films because they have a select and dedicated following, electronic music gets on a lot of people’s nerves, and sarcasm is an art not everyone has mastered.

Simple changes such as this really give your sentences life, and as a result people will  get more of a sense of who you are.